You take Hinders song “Lips of an angle”. When I was going threw my divorce I remember getting really angry every time I'd hear it on the radio. I guess that kind of dates my divorce if your familiar, but oh well. The moral backwardness just blows my mind.
Don’t romanticize stupidity.
Why do these women do this? Don’t get me wrong, I’m not letting men off the hook but for the moment I just want to focus on women. Do you really, honestly believe that you can win here? Even if you win, what have you won?
One could argue, “Sometimes things happen.” Ok. As much as I hate to entertain this, in the sake of fairness I will. When I was younger I met a man who I had a brief affair with. He lived alone and there where no signs of a wife or family. It never even occurred to me that could have been a possibility. Then one morning he received a phone call and said he had to leave out of state. Apparently something was going on with his wife that required his immediate attention.
“WIFE?!?!?”
Apparently they where getting “divorced” but I really didn’t care at that point. When they got divorced I might have considered it, but it did not happen for quiet some time. And not before I had well moved on with my life. Had I known he was married the affair would have never occurred and when I learned he was, in my mind it was over. It wasn’t because I wasn’t in love with him. For a time, I was. But it’s about having a moral compass and self control. I left and that was it. I saw him around. I thought about him occasionally. I even managed to remain friendly with him.
Shawn Colvin did a song called, “The facts about Jimmy” - it made me think of him then and it makes me think of him now and in a way I guess that was my “infidelity” song. But I would like to imagine that “Jimmy” in the song, like in my life, had not been forthcoming in the beginning and the end of there affair was like mine, as a result of learning about the whole truth. Probably not, but that’s how I’d like to imagine it.
During my first marriage I actually had a women have the gall to curse me out over my husband. She genuinely believed that he had left me and that they where going to live happily ever after. Funnily enough before this I had no clue about her or any of that. I was completely blindsided by the affair but level headed enough to point out to her that I was unaware of that and she needed to bare in mind she was the “other” woman. Not only did he not leave me for her but our marriage lasted almost another 4 years after the fact. I hate to admit that point but it was his first affair and I allowed him to convince me it was a mistake and would never, ever happen again. The only mistake in his mind though was that he allowed himself to be caught. I had my suspicions over the years that followed but to be able to prove them definitively? I really couldn’t. Only later and via circumstance where the puzzle pieces aligned.
Now, I believe there are two kinds of women in the world who get involved with married men. The ones who don’t know and the ones who do. For the ones who don’t know? I forgive you. Now that you do? Have some self respect and leave. The ones that do know? What is wrong with you? Really? Are you that sad, pathetic, desperate, lonely, stupid, arrogant? ….I could go on and on.
Like I said, you will never win. In the process you knowingly destroy a family and home. If you do manage to get the man to leave his wife for you? Congratulations! You’re a home wrecker! If you decide to keep the prize you “won”, you’ll suffer the rest of your time together living in terror that he’ll someday do the same to you.
Oh, and btw if you’re just one of those little whores who just wants to see if you can take another woman’s husband away? Well, I’ll just say, there’s a special place in hell for people like that. And one day you might just meet the crazy wife who will put you there.
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